What are Relationship Issues and Trauma?
Relationship issues refer to a broad range of problems that arise in relationships, such as trust issues, communication difficulties, difficulties setting boundaries, social anxiety, being stuck in difficult relationships, and much more.
Relationship trauma refers to trauma you developed as a result of overtly abusive relationships or from subtle patterns of neglect, invalidation, or emotional manipulation. Past trauma, if ignored, can affect current relationships, even when those relationships are healthy and based on mutual respect and love.
How are People Impacted by Relationship Issues and Trauma?
Relationships can bring happiness and comfort, but they can also cause distress and misery. When you're dealing with complicated relationship issues or trauma, it can negatively affect your mental health. You may experience symptoms like
Difficulties making decisions
Difficulties setting boundaries
Navigating relationship issues is complex and can bring up difficult emotions. Relationship issues can affect different aspects of your life, like your job, financial security, family relationships, community acceptance, and social life. Sometimes, disengaging from specific relationships is the best choice. Other times, trying new ways of interacting and dealing with current relationships can lead to greater personal authenticity, and improve your relational functioning. At times, altering your perception and addressing your own anxiety might be all you need to improve your situation.
Relationship trauma can affect the way you think or feel about yourself, others, and the world in general. Even if your relational trauma happened a long time ago, it is likely that you still engage in some behaviors, or emotional and physiological responses that kept you safe and protected in the past. Behaviors and responses that once were adaptive because you were in an abusive relationship, are likely no longer adaptive or helpful because you are in a healthy relationship. Recognizing and addressing these behaviors and responses is essential, as they can inadvertently damage or strain healthy relationships. Healing takes time, and often involves processing through your past experiences and having positive interactions with others who are trustworthy and genuinely caring.
In your relationships, learning to set personal boundaries and sticking to them, even when it's hard, can be a very helpful tool to foster healthy long-term relationships. Regardless of how you are being affected by your relationship issues or trauma, talking through your experience in a non-judgmental environment, exploring options for moving forward, learning healthy ways of interacting with others, and gaining new perspectives can be helpful.
How can Therapy for Relationship Issues and Trauma with Me Help You?
Navigating relationship issues and trauma can be difficult, and in some situations, it can be helpful to seek therapy involving all parties, like couples or family counseling. However, this may not always be feasible, recommended, or safe, especially when dealing with current relational abuse. As a psychologist, my focus is on helping individuals navigate challenging relationships and issues from their unique perspective.
I specialize in therapy with individuals facing a variety of relationship issues, including
Relationship abuse history (e.g. emotional abuse, domestic violence, physical abuse, sexual abuse)
Difficulties setting boundaries
Difficulties making your own decisions
Adult child - parent relationships
Romantic partner relationships and issues
Relationships and problems related to their present or past religious identity
If your type of relationship challenge isn't listed above, don't worry - feel free to reach out to me anyway. Let's discuss your unique circumstances and see if I might be a good fit for you. I'm here to help you navigate any relationship challenges you're going through.
If you want to begin your healing journey, call/text or email me today to get started. You can also schedule a free 15 minute consult.
Are you struggling in your relationship(s) or feel stuck and anxious when interacting with others? As a psychologist, I specialize in working with adults dealing with mental health concerns related to relationship issues and trauma. My focus is on creating a safe and non-judgmental space where we can work together to explore your values, goals, and beliefs as they relate to the relationships in your life.
Whether you're dealing with relationship trauma, social anxiety, or challenging relationships with family, partners, or colleagues, I can help. My goal is to help you build stronger and healthier relationships, but I also understand that sometimes the healthiest choice is to cut off a relationship, such as in cases of abuse.
I have extensive experience in counseling individuals dealing with relational stressors and navigating challenging relationships. Let's work together to help you feel more confident and empowered in your relationships. If you want to learn more about fostering healthy relationships and how therapy with me can help, keep reading!